This is how you heal

Nobody will protect you from your suffering. You can’t cry it away or eat it away or starve it away or walk it away or punch it away or even therapy it away. You have to endure it. You have to live through it and love it and move on and be better for it...

Grief changes you

As you wake up, for just one split second, your mind jumbles your dreams with reality, leaving you unable to distinguish between what is “real” and what occurred only in dreamland. For just a moment, you’re back in an alternate universe, a universe in which your loved one was still alive. They were eating cereal...

God, my soul is tired. Sometimes I feel like I’m giving, and giving, and giving, until I’m empty and there’s no one to fill me up. There’s no one to reach out to me, to pour their love into my tired hands, to lift my aching spirit. Sometimes I feel like I care too much....

To those who loved me at my worst , thank you

To the people who hold me up when my knees give out and I start tumbling to the floor, thank you. Thank you for being my extra pair of legs when mine refuse to work. For letting me lean on your strength when I’m convinced the rest of the world wants me face down in...

To my Mama bear in heaven

I miss you. It’s been so long since I’ve heard your voice and seen your face it almost scares me that I’m going to forget the sound or the way you look. Sure, I have pictures to remind me, that doesn’t mean anything compared to seeing you in person. I don’t think I’ll ever be...

This is why I stay

I stay because my laugh alone has changed someone’s life. I stay because of a new baby being born soon. I stay because there is someone in the world who needs my presence. I stay because I have words that need to be spoken. I stay because of the way my Dad needs me to...

A lesson on healing

What happened to you was not your fault. It was not something you asked for, it was not something you deserved. What happened to you was not fair. You were merely collateral damage on someone else’s warpath, an innocent bystander who got wrecked out of proximity. We are all traumatized by life, some of us...

Still you stood

Loss hammered you incessantly. Grief hollowed you out until you were gasping for breath, empty and fully spent. Your heart was broken and battered into a heap of crumbled bits and pieces. And still, you stood. Anguish carved you open in unexpected and totally disorienting ways. You lost your footing; you lost your way. Nothing...

We grieve deeply because we loved deeply

Through hope, we find the strength to climb from the hole we call grief. When facing loss, we have no choice but to let go, discovering both humility and faith within the pain of a shattered heart. Humility helps us fall to our knees and admit we are powerless over what shows up in life,...